My People 2

I was once told (by someone who's name shall not be mentioned) that my friends would leave me at some point, you can guess my response lol. I know my friends, I love  them respect them and would stay glued to them. I am losing some, and not worried about it. The woman has proven time and time again that she can't manage these boys alone; I have some people. I'd leave it here

My People 1

It's February 18 2022, and it's been ages since I last journaled. To be honest, I tried a few times but deleted them, cos I did not think my thoughts were worthy of been read again; mistake.

Since the last time I wrote, a lot has happened, but more recently, I have had time to reflect and celebrated a few of my people. I am getting to an age where one has to be extremely deliberate about words and actions, and I promised myself I will. 

I will not go into details in this episode nor will I focus outside, but a bit more inflection is the objective of this piece. Someone (a World Bank Certified trainer, Nneka) said something profound today. She said "if only we were less emotional about our decisions, some of us would not be married to the people we are today". The marriage part was not what struck me, like you may have figured, I ain't in the marriage business no more. As a matter of fact my lawyer should have filed for joint custody in court today; but that's besides the point. What struck me was the emotionally skewed decisions I have made across board.

I have spent the last 2 days in a 5 star hotel, attending a retreat with my team, getting to know them better and charting the course for the year. In this time, I have seen timid people become outspoken, broken people regain confidence and doubtful people ready to take on the world! And yes, I fall in that group. These are the ones I call My People! We are not exactly there yet, but we will, its a journey for me and working towards it. I was also reminded that some circumstances you inheret, some others you choose and some others form who you eventually become. Nothing profound here, yes, but it's instructive to know these things and always keep them at the top of your mind. This is me now deciding to choose what I inherited; this is phase 1.

As for my past, it will remain in a box with the keys kept in a safe place till I decide to unearth them.

I will not say I have found myself again, I will only say, I think I have found my new people!